What follows is a commentary from Facebook. The person who posted admits not being able to find the original author due to Facebook’s algorythms therefore; could not give proper credit. Perhaps the commentary will help those who grew up in loving, intact families understand a part of the destruction of society when all the rules are abandoned and we become our own definers of reality. No higher authority than our own navel.
It is said it takes more than a generation to affect change, positive or negative. If that is true, we have ripped the very fabric of the civilization itself. It is a cautionary tale, perhaps told too late; let us hope not, for the sake of our great-grandchildren.
For the record
This letter entitled, “Dear Dad” could just as easily be; “Dear Mom” with primary custody being awarded to fathers and mothers becoming the “visitors” in their children’s lives. No amount of “feel-good” euphimisms like “parenting-time” and “co-parenting” can alter the end results of throw away relationships.
For those of you who grew up in the 1990s, the above sub-heading is very familiar. If you do not know what it means, here is the translation…
What Would Jesus Do?
In this case the question is not What would Jesus do rather, it is what did Jesus tell us to do. Assuming Jesus had the authority to speak for the fullness of the Godhead and passed that authority on to his diciples, here is a sampling in logical thought order:
- John 13:34-35 : 34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
- 1 Corinthians 13:13 – 13And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love.
- 1 Corinthians 13:5 – 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. 6Love takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth.…
And what does this look like, boots on the ground, within the family and community?
- Wives and Husbands in 1 Peter 3 – 5For this is how the holy women of the past adorned themselves. They put their hope in God and were subject to their husbands, 6just as Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord. You are her children if you do what is right and refuse to quiver in fear. 7Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.…
- And children? Ephesians 6:1 1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2“Honor your father and mother” (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3“that it may go well with you and that you may be long-lived on the earth.”…
- In the community Hebrews 12:14 – 13Make straight paths for your feet, so that the lame will not be debilitated, but rather healed. 14Pursue peace with all men, as well as holiness, without which no one will see the Lord. 15Be careful that no one falls short of the grace of God, so that no root of bitterness will spring up to cause trouble and defile many.…
- Then what? John 14:1 & 27 – 1 Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe in Me as well. 2In My Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you?…
Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled; do not be afraid
Boiling it all down, God, others, self in that order. The Judah-ites of the old testement, when Israel was still whole and lead out of bondage from Egypt by Moses believed this, and Jesus repeated it:
Mark 12:29-31 – 28Now one of the scribes had come up and heard their debate. Noticing how well Jesus had answered them, he asked Him, “Which commandment is the most important of all?” 29Jesus replied, “This is the most important: ‘Hear O Israel, the Lord our God is One Lord, 30and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’…31The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”…32“Right, Teacher,” the scribe replied. “You have stated correctly that God is One and there is no other but Him, 33and to love Him with all your heart and with all your understanding and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself, which is more important than all burnt offerings and sacrifices.” 34When Jesus saw that the man had answered wisely, He said, “You are not far from the kingdom of God.” And no one dared to question Him any further.…
For those contemplating severing family relationships ask yourself, “Am I following the instructions as they are meant to be followed? Am fudging around the edges to satisfy some desire of mine at the expense of someone else or my relationships with God, family or neighbor?”
Spouses and children are not possessions like houses or cars. They are gifts to us from a loving Father; their purpose is to hold a mirror to our faces and teach us what we cannot see unless we have a mirror. This in part, explains the passage which says, “…we see through a glass, darkly…”
If you are contemplating tearing the fabric of family, please consider the transparency of the Adult Child’s comments above. It is not just your family, it ripples out to extended family and friends and communities and nations. Please consider it ripples in time as well; generation after generation. It is the responsibility of the Holy Spirit to clarify for you, your thoughts, desires and motives as well as comfort you when you see error and strengthen you to act righteously. Ask and it shall be given, seek and it shall be found, knock and the door will be opened.
This is a stand along article however; it is a followup to an article published on May 8, 2018 entitled “The Gap”. If you are interested, link to The Gap.
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